Ten Commandments for Relationship Essentials


The following is a basic framework for relationship success. Stay tuned for more about this in future posts. In the mean time, copy and paste this to a document and print- post it in a prominent place in your home where both you and your partner can review if frequently.


1.       THOU SHALT protect the safety and security of thy relationship at all costs.


2. THOU SHALT base thy relationship on true mutuality, remembering that all decisions and actions must be good for thee AND for thine partner.


3. THOU SHALT not threaten the existence of the relationship, for so doing would benefit no one.


4. THOU SHALT appoint thy partner as go-to person for all matters, making certain thy partner is first to know- not second, third, or fourth—in all matters of importance.


5. THOU SHALT provide a tether to thy partner all the days and nights of thy life, and never fail to greet thy partner with good cheer.


6. THOU SHALT protect thy partner in public and in private from harmful elements, including thyself.


7. THOU SHALT put thy partner to bed each nightand awaken with thy partner each morning.


8. THOU SHALT correct all errors, including injustices and injuries, at once or as soon as possible, and not make dispute

of who was the original perpetrator.


9. THOU SHALT gaze lovingly upon thy partner daily and make frequent and meaningful gestures of appreciation, admiration, and gratitude.


10. THOU SHALT learn thy partner well and master the ways of seduction, influence, and persuasion, without the use of fear or threat.

created by Stan Tatkin, PsyD

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